How’s Your Self Regard
“Wanting to be someone else is a waste of the person you are.” ― Marilyn Monroe
I recently read Vicki Semanie’s blog How is your Self Regard?
https://www.sevenstoneslifecoaching.com/growthstories/87ted9hzawc59sh-lezse-98pyz-53b2z-9pgzb-c963x
Her blog spoke to me because I am recovering from something she spoke about. She asked these questions… How is your self-regard? Do you recognize your strengths and understand your weaknesses as part of being a human? Do you need to see yourself through the eyes of others? They were thought provoking questions, but her vulnerability in sharing that she overemphasized her weaknesses while minimizing her strengths struck a chord with me. I do that!
After reading Vicki’s blog, I went down a rabbit hole of reading about self regard. The Learning Cog’s post on Developing Self Regard describes self regard as having respect for yourself while understanding your personal strengths and weaknesses. Self regard measures how you think about yourself, your abilities and your achievements. Self regard is balancing respect for yourself while appreciating both your strengths and the negative aspects of yourself.
You know you have high self regard when…
You feel confident in yourself and abilities.
You are secure in who you are.
You are optimistic and have a positive attitude towards work and life.
You have the competence that you can do what you need to do.
When your self regard is waning…
You are uncomfortable with yourself. You want to be different than you are.
You feel like you are not enough, you are harder on yourself than you would be on your friend or partner.
You do not see your strengths and weaknesses accurately. You try to do more than possible and get down on yourself when you don’t meet your own self imposed expectations (I may be talking about myself:).
If you would like to go down a rabbit hole of your own, check out these quotes. There were so many good ones, I couldn’t choose one to end with. https://www.goodreads.com/quotes/tag/self-respect
